Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

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Penguin, Jan 1, 1996 - 177 pages
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Self-defeating behavior is the single most common reason that people seek psychotherapy. It is a poison, preventing us from achieving the love, success and happiness we want in our lives. And what really drives us crazy is feeling we have to change and not knowing how - or knowing how but being unable to stick with change. Get Out of Your Own Way is an antidote - it explains why we sabotage ourselves, going back to childhood origins of various behaviors. More important, it offers proven steps of action to transform behavior from self-defeating to life-enhancing.
With anecdotes and usable insights drawn from twenty years of psychiatric clinical practice, Dr. Mark Goulston shares ideas that have helped thousands of patients overcome pain, fear, and confusion - to approach life's challenges with dignity, wisdom, courage, and even humor. By encouraging you to reflect upon your behavior - and providing practical steps toward change that you can work into your everyday life - Get Out of Your Own Way shows you how to stop being your own worst enemy - and become your own best friend.
  

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Review: Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

User Review  - Anita Werner - Goodreads

There are good points but the only sections that are truly helpful are the Taking Action and Usable Insights at the end of each chapter. Read full review

Review: Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

User Review  - Joy - Goodreads

Really thin self help content that neglects to provide insight into suggestions. Read full review

Contents

Chasing After Love and Approval From
1
Procrastinating
11
Waiting Until Its Too Late
21
Saying Yes When You Want to Say No
29
Assuming They Dont Want Anything
37
Playing It Safe
41
Always Having to Be Right
45
Focusing on What Your Partner Is Doing Wrong
49
Trying to Take Care of Everybody
100
Refusing to Play Games
104
Putting on an Act to Make a Good Impression
108
Being Envious of Others
113
Feeling Sorry for Yourself
117
Assuming the Hard Way Is the Right Way
122
Thinking Im Sorry Is Enough
126
Holding It All In
130

Putting up With Broken Promises
54
Trying to Make up While Youre Still Angry
59
Not Learning From Your Mistakes
63
Trying to Change Others
67
Rebelling Just for the Sake of Rebelling
71
Talking When Nobodys Listening
75
Pretending Youre Fine When Youre Not
79
Becoming Obsessive or Compulsive
83
Taking Things Too Personally
88
Acting Too Needy
92
Having Unrealistic Expectations
96
Quitting Too Soon
135
Letting Others Control Your Life
139
Leaving Too Much to Chance
143
Letting Fear Run Your Life
148
Not Moving on After a Loss
152
Not Getting Out When the Getting Is Good
156
Not Asking for What You Need
161
Giving Advice When They Want Something Else
166
Backing Down Because You Dont Feel Ready
171
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Mark Goulston, M.D., is a corporate consultant who works with executives, managers, and line workers to help them get out of their own way so they can realize the success that their skills, talents, and abilities deserve. His clients include Goldman Sachs, Merrill Lynch, GE, White & Case, Eli Lilly and Company, Disney, Kodak, and the FBI. He writes "The Leading Edge" column for Fast Company. He was selected as one of America's Top Psychiatrists for 2004-2005 by the Consumers' Research Council of America. Dr. Goulston is the author of Get Out of Your Own Way and Six Secrets of a Lasting Relationship.
Philip Goldberg, a novelist and screenwriter, has authored or coauthored sixteen books.

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