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action; it is calculation realized; it is the doctrine of
proportion reduced to practice; it is foreseeing consequences, and guarding against them; it is expecting contingencies, and being prepared for them. The difference is, that to a narrow minded, vulgar economist the details are continually present; she is overwhelmed by their weight, and is perpetually bespeaking your pity for her labours, and your praise for her exertions; she is afraid you will not see how much she is harassed. She is not satisfied, that the machine moves harmoniously, unless she is perpetually exposing every secret spring to observation. Little events and trivial operations engross her whole soul; while, a woman of sense, having provided for their probable recurrence, guards against the inconveniences, without being disconcerted by the casual obstructions which they offer to her general scheme. Subordinate expenses, and inconsiderable retrenchments, should not swallow up that atten. tion, which is better bestowed on regulating the general scale of expense, correcting and reducing an overgrown establishment, and reforming radical and growing ex.
MRS. HANNAH More.
A YOUNG lady may excel in speaking French and Italian; may repeat a few passages from a volume of extracts; play like a professor, and sing like a siren; have her dressing room decorated with her own drawing, tables, stands, flower pots, screens, and cabinets; nay, she may dance like Sempronia herself, and yet we shall insist, that she may have been very badly educated. I am far from meaning to set no value whatever on any or all of these qualifications; they are all of them elegant, and many of them properly tend to the perfecting of a polite education.
These things, in their measure and degree, may be done; but there are others, which should not be left undone, Many things are becoming, but one thing is need fol." Besides, as the world seems to be fully apprised of the -value of whatever tends to embellish life, there is less occasion here to insist on it's importance.
But, though a well bred young lady may lawfully learn most of the fashionable arts; yet, let me ask, does it seem to be the true end of education, to make women of fashion dancers, singers, players, painters, actresses, sculptors, gilders, varnishers, engravers, and embroiderers ? Most men are commonly destined to some profession, and their minds are consequently turned each to it's respective object. Would it not be strange if they were called out to exercise their profession, or to set up their trade, with only a little general knowledge of the trades and professions of all other men, and without any previous definite application to their own peculiar calling? The profession of ladies, 'to which the bent of their instruction should be lurned, is that of daughters, wives, mothers, and mistresses of families. They should be therefore trained with a view to these several conditions, and be furnished with a stock of ideas, and principles, and qualifications, and habits, ready to be applied and appropriated, as occasion may demand, to each of these respective situations. For though the arts, which merely embellish life, must claim admiration ; yet, when a man of sense.comes to marry, it is a companion whom he wants, and not an artist. It is not merely a creature who can paint, and play, and sing, and draw, and dress, and dance; it is a being who can comfort and counsel him ; one who can reason, and reflect, and feel, and judge, and discourse, and discriminate ; one who who can assist him in his affairs, lighten his cares, sooth his sorrows, purify his joys, strengthen his principles, and educate his chil. dren,
FAMILY friendships are the friendships made for us (if I may so speak) by God himself. With the kindest intentions, he has knit the bands of family love by indispensable duties : and wretched are they, who have burst them asunder by violence and ill will, or worn them out by constant little disobligations, and by the want of that attention to please, which the presence of a stranger always inspires, but which is so often shamefully neglected towards those, whom it is most our duty and interest to please. May you, my dear, be wise enough to see, that every faculty of entertainment, every engaging qualification, which you possess, is exerted to the best advantage for those, whose love is of most importance to you; for those who live under the same roof, and with whom you are connected for life, either by the ties of blood, or by the still more sacred obligations of a voluntary en. gagement. • To make you the delight and darling of your family,
something more is required, than barely to be exempt from - ill temper and troublesome humours: the sincere and
genuine smiles .of complacency and love must adorn your countenance : that ready compliance, that alertness to assist and oblige, which demonstrates true affection, must animate your behaviour, and endear your most common actions: politeness must accompany your greatest familiarities, and restrain you from every thing that is really offensive, or which can give a moment's unnecessary pain: conversation, which is so apt to grow.dull and insipid in families, nay, in some to be almost wholly laid aside, must be cultivated with the frankness and openness.of friendship, and by the mutual communication of whatever may conduce to the improvement or innocent entertainment of each other.
Reading, whether apart or in common, will furnish useful and pleasing subjects; and the sprightliness of youth will naturally inspire harmless mirth and native bumour, if encouraged by a mutual desire of diverting each other, and making the hours pass agreeably in your own house : every amusement that offers, will be heightened by the participation of these dear companions, and by talking over every incident together, and every object of pleasure. If you have any acquired talent of entertainment, such as music, painting, or the like, your own family are those before whom you should most wish to excel, and for whom you should always be ready to exert yourself: not suffering the accomplishments which you have gained, perhaps by their means, and at their expense, to lie dormant, till the arrival of a stranger gives you spirit in the performance. Where this last is the case, you may be sure vanity is the only motive of the exertion :--a stranger will praise you more. But how little sensibility has that heart, which is not more gratified by the silent pleasure painted on the countenance of a partial parent, or of an affectionate brother, than by the empty compliment of a visitor, who is perhaps inwardly more disposed to criticise and ridicule, than to admire you !
ON SENSIBILITY. THERE is nothing in which self deception is more notorious, than in what regards sentiment and feeling. Let a vain young woman be told, that tenderness and softness are the peculiar charm of the sex; that even their weakness is lovely, and their fears becoming; and you will presently observe her grow so tender, as to be ready to weep for a fly; so fearful, that she starts at a feather; and so weak hearted, that the smallest accident quite overpowers her.
Remember, my dear, that our feelings were not given us for our ornament, but to,spur us on to right actions. Compassion, for instance, was not impressed upon the human heart, only to adorn the fair face with tears, and to give an agreeable languor to the eyes; it was designed to excite our utmost endeavours to relieve the sufferer. Yet, how often have I heard that selfish weakness, which flies from the sight of distress, dignified with the name of tenderness !~" My friend is, I hear, in the deepest affliction and misery :- I have not seen her ;- for indeed I cannot bear such scenes, they affect me too much!
Those who have less sensibility, are fitter for this world; but, for my part, I own, I am not able to support such things. I shall not attempt to visit her, till I hear she has recovered her spirits.” This have I heard said, with an air of complacence; and the poor, selfish creature has persuaded herself, that she had finer feel. ings than those generous friends, who are sitting patiently in the house of mourning, watching, in silence, the proper moment to pour in the balm of comfort ; who suppressed their own sensations, and only attended to those of the afflicted person; and whose tears flowed in secret, while their eyes and voice were taught to enliven the sinking heart with the appearance of cheerfulness.
That sort of teaderness, which makes us useless, may indeed be pitied and excused, if owing to natural imbecility; but, if it pretends to loveliness and excellence, it becomes truly contemptible.
The same degree of active courage is not to be expected in woman as in man; and, not belonging to her nature, it is not agreeable in her : but passive courage, patience and fortitude under sufferings, presence of mind, and calm resignation in danger, are surely desirable in every rational creature; especially in one professing to believe in an overruling Providence, in which we may at all times